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Celebrating the life and legacy of Kay Graham, our remarkable volunteer

Tribute to our amputee support volunteer who has died at 84.

A woman who is wearing a purple Royal Free Charity tshirt while sat in a wheelchair smiling.
It is with great sadness that we pay tribute to Kay Graham, our dedicated amputee support volunteer who died earlier this month at the age of 84. 

For four years, Kay was a cherished part of our community, volunteering at the Royal Free Hospital (RFH) to support new amputees with her compassion and lived experience.

Her journey into volunteering began in 2021, when she underwent life-saving surgery for an abdominal aortic aneurysm. Kay had a six-hour operation on her aorta at the RFH and although the procedure was successful, the lack of blood supply to her leg meant it had to be amputated.

With a mortality rate of around 80% in such cases, clinical staff described her survival as a testament to her fighting spirit. That same resilience shaped everything she did.

Kay joined our support hub’s amputee support group that brings together patients on the wards, those further along in recovery and our welfare advisors. She became a regular attendee, offering practical advice and emotional support.

In March this year, Kay took on the role of peer facilitator to lead the group and help others find their own strength.

I want to reassure people that an amputation is not the end of normal life. With help, and a fair amount of stubbornness, one can get all sorts of help.”

– Kay Graham once said 

Speaking about Kay’s impact, Liz Fowler said: Kay was such an inspiration to amputees and non-amputees alike. Her kindness, knowledge, motivation and resilience filled people with hope while they were in the scary place of being a new amputee.

She will be so missed by the support hub team, on the ward that she volunteered in and by the members of the amputee peer support group.”

Kay visited the amputee ward every two weeks, sharing her story with realism and compassion. Her contribution was recognised at our 2024 Staff Excellence Awards, during which she spoke about her passion for volunteering.

Her daughter Carolyn shared how much the role meant to her: I know that my mum enjoyed her role as volunteer at the Royal Free Hospital and was glad to be able to give back to the hospital after they saved her life. I hope she was able to use her experience and resourcefulness to support other recent amputees.”

Gill Hyatt from the volunteer team also paid tribute to Kay’s legacy: Kay was a resilient and reliable volunteer who was respected by everyone who met her. She offered support and advice from her lived experience to patients with amputations, and she was highly valued by staff and patients on the wards and at support groups.

We will miss seeing her friendly smile in the charity office on Wednesdays.

Beyond her work with us, Kay also volunteered with the Limbless Association as a wellbeing visitor. Her life was full of variety – she had been a chemistry teacher, loved Pilates, enjoyed glassmaking and inspired so many of us.

We will miss her and honour the legacy she leaves behind. 

You can share your memories of Kay on her MuchLoved page.

Kay Graham 1940–2025